Do you long for mutually supportive, harmonious & respectful cooperation in all your relationships?
Do you struggle at times with internal habits and reactions that get in the way of the love between you and your loved ones; your partner, children, parents or friends? Even at the workplace?
Do you have a hard time speaking up & "finding your own voice", because you just don't know how to say it? And then, swept under the carpet, it festers, until, it blows like a volcano? (and we all know that's not pretty!)
Do you say "YES", when you really mean "NO!" and then become a resentful "Yes, Dear?"
The LOVE 911 Coach and Help My Relationships Communication Coaching and Love Addiction re-patterning can help!
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The POWER of language cannot be underestimated!
Our words have the power to create profound healing or incredible suffering. Even with the best of intentions, it is often difficult to express ourselves in ways that build harmony and trust. Relationship Coaching is a chance for you and your partner to learn the skills of listening and speaking in ways that cultivate love and understanding and build trust and respect. With the gentle guidance of a trained professional, you can turn your relationships around. I can show you how!
For the last twenty years, I have been using the simple yet powerful techniques of (NVC) Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org), as well as the teachings of David Schnarch, PhD ( Passionate Marriage) and Murray Bowen (Bowenian Family Therapy/Family Systems Theory) to help couples connect to the spirit of love, generosity, well-being and appreciation that STILL EXISTS beneath the "reactive"confusion and heartache that may be present at the moment. Starting with an easy four-step communication process that focuses on the actions of observing, feeling, needing, and requesting, I can teach you and your loved ones a whole a new language of EMPATHIC UNDERSTANDING, MUTUAL RESPECT and AUTHENTICITY rather than one based on fear, guilt , shame, duty pressure or obligation which interferes with the natural flow of COMPASSIONATE GIVING and RECEIVING and where love and intimacy can truly blossom and thrive!
NVC Training
NVC increases good-will by emphasizing respectful, authentic and compassionate speaking and listening, which builds harmony, trust and a sense of empowerment.
Communication involves two things; speaking (expressing) and listening (hearing)... and both require active, conscious choice, and compassionate participation.
The purpose of communication is, on the simplest level, to exchange ideas or information. On the deepest level, it is to connect with ourselves and others in an authentic, self-responsible, empowering, and heartfelt way.
What is Nonviolent Communication? Nonviolent Communication (NVC), also referred to as Compassionate or Empathic Communication, uses a simple, yet powerful 4-step process for expressing and listening and a philosophy of consciousness that inspires connection, cooperation, and compassion even in the most difficult situations. NVC helps us to connect with one another at the heart level. Using our natural empathy, we can defuse stressful situations and support others who might be feeling angry, fearful, or overwhelmed with any other emotions.
The intention of NVC is to inspire compassion from others and to respond compassionately to others, thereby enabling mutually respectful connection on a needs-based human level. NVC guides us to reframe how we EXPRESS ourselves and how we HEAR others without shaming, blaming, judging, or criticizing. We communicate instead by focusing on the simple, yet powerful 4- steps of the model which are: observing, feeling, needing, and requesting.
NVC will help you model this intention in the ways you speak and listen.
NVC will teach us ways to speak and express ourselves that will maximize the possibility of everyone being heard, deeply understood and …everyone getting their needs met!
NVC Basics- How to help yourself & others with NVC-Nonviolent Communication aka Empathic or Compassionate Communication:
In NVC private coaching sessions or group training you will learn:
- NVC Communication defined
- NVC-What it ISN’T-Roadblocks to communication.
- NVC-What it IS?- It’s underlying principles- and in-depth, interactive and experiential understanding of what Nonviolent Communication IS !!
- Empathy & Authenticity/Honesty - The Two Foundational Parts of the Process which will help you connect in ways that will support everyone to feel ‘heard’ and everyone getting their needs met.
- NVC 4-Step Process-Defined-the simple, yet powerful 4-step process of NVC (and its philosophy) for expressing and listening that inspires cooperation and compassion even in the most uncomfortable or difficult of situations!
NVC will help:
- turn around painful situations and relationships
- let go of blame and grudges towards others and ourselves
- Find peace by feeling empowered to identify our own needs and the needs of others
- Make conscious and life-serving choices to get those needs met
"Tera is an accomplished Life Coach lending her wisdom to people, like myself, who are looking forward to positive growth and self-empowered living." -Harry A., San Diego, CA
NVC: What it IS?
The Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process, also know as emphatic or compassionate communication, is a simple yet powerful four-step communication model that facilitates speaking and listening from the heart. NCV supports speaking and listening to others in a way that inspires self-responsibility, mutual respect, connection and cooperation. The purpose of NVC is to inspire compassion from others and to respond compassionately to others, thereby enabling mutually respectful connection on a needs-based human level. NVC guides us to reframe how we express ourselves and how we hear others without shaming, blaming, judging or criticizing.
NVC: What it ISN'T?
Roadblocks to communication:
By practicing the NVC 4-Step process, you will avoid the pitfalls of preaching, warning, blaming, shaming, persuading, diagnosing, interrogating, advising, agreeing, sympathizing, or commanding. These unhelpful responses convey a lack of understanding and may lead others to shut down or blame you.
How I can help...
You & Your Partner…
- Do the inner work that nurtures your outer work;
- Communicate /Connect with each other in ways that let you hear and be heard;
- Find positive alternatives to giving-in, withdrawing, and counterattacking;
- Increase inner resources and outer effectiveness where you’d like to see change happen harmoniously.
You & Your Family…
- Teaching you how to offer authentic and mutually respectful conversation,without "POWERING-over;
- Show you how to step out of the perpetrator/victim paradigm;
- Providing you with proven skills for overcoming “dehumanizing” communication patterns that block compassion and therefore connection;
- Demonstrate how to see through the eyes of the other to foster understanding and how to use your natural empathy to defuse stressful situations and safely confront anger, fear, and other emotions
You & Your Team...
- Teaching you how to offer authentic and mutually respectful conversation, without "POWERING-over, or "pulling rank" which builds resentment
- Providing you with proven skills for overcoming “dehumanizing” communication patterns that block compassion and therefore connection;
- Demonstrate how to see through the eyes of the other to foster understanding and how to use your natural empathy (Not rank) to defuse stressful & challenging situations which will lead to the desired outcome for all involved!
Let me help you and your partner go from TROUBLED to TERRIFIC! I am available for private one-on-one coaching for individuals and couples as well as for families and groups in a corporate setting.