Our feelings help guide us inwardly to determine what’s going on inside… specifically what NEEDS ARE met or what NEEDS ARE NOT met . Feelings are always directly connected to a need and therefore act as a perfect “inner compases” to discover the need. Need fulfillment for all involved is at the heart of NVC!
Below is a :
List of FEELINGS put into 2 categories: 1. How we might feel when our needs are being met 2. How we might feel when our needs are not being met:
and following is a: List of NEEDS —
Below is a :
List of FEELINGS put into 2 categories: 1. How we might feel when our needs are being met 2. How we might feel when our needs are not being met:
and following is a: List of NEEDS —
FEELINGS; How we might feel when our needs are being met:
Absorbed
Adventurous
Affectionate
Alert
Alive
Amazed
Amused
Animated
Appreciative
Ardent
Aroused
Astonished
Blissful
Breathless
Buoyant
Calm
Carefree
Cheerful
Comfortable
Complacent
Composed
Concerned
Confident
Contented
Cool
Curious
Dazzled
Delighted
Eager
Ebullient
Ecstatic
Effervescent
Elated
Enchanted
Encouraged
Energetic
Engrossed
Enlivened
Enthusiastic
Excited
Exhilarated
Expansive
Expectant
Exultant
Fascinated
Free
Friendly
Fulfilled
Glad
Gleeful
Glorious
Glowing
good-humored
Grateful
Gratified
Happy
Helpful
Hopeful
Inquisitive
Inspired
Intense
Interested
Intrigued
Invigorated
Involved
Joyous
Joyful
Jubilant
keyed-up
Loving
Mellow
Merry
Mirthful
Moved
Optimistic
Overjoyed
Overwhelmed
Peaceful
Perky
Pleasant
Pleased
Proud
Quiet
Radiant
Rapturous
Refreshed
Relaxed
Relieved
Satisfied
Secure
Sensitive
Serene
Spellbound
Splendid
Stimulated
Surprised
Tender
Thankful
Thrilled
Touched
Tranquil
Trusting
Upbeat
Warm
wide-awake
Wonderful
Zestful
How we might feel when our needs ARE NOT being met:
Afraid
Aggravated
Agitated
Alarmed
Aloof
Angry
Anguished
Annoyed
Anxious
Apathetic
Apprehensive
Aroused
Ashamed
Beat
Bewildered
Bitter
Blah
Blue
Bored
Brokenhearted
Chagrined
Cold
Concerned
Confused
Cool
Cross
Dejected
Depressed
Despairing
Despondent
Detached
Disaffected
Disappointed
Discouraged
Disenchanted
Disgruntled
Disgusted
Disheartened
Dismayed
Displeased
Disquieted
Distressed
Disturbed
Downcast
Downhearted
Dull
Edgy
Embarrassed
Embittered
Exasperated
Exhausted
Fatigued
Fearful
Fidgety
Forlorn
Frightened
Frustrated
Furious
Gloomy
Guilty
Harried
Heavy
Helpless
Hesitant
Horrible
Horrified
Hostile
Hot
Humdrum
Hurt
Impatient
Indifferent
Intense
Irate
Irked
Irritated
Jealous
Jittery
keyed-up
Lazy
Leery
Lethargic
Listless
Lonely
Mad
Mean
Miserable
Mopey
Morose
Mournful
Nervous
Nettled
Numb
Overwhelmed
Panicky
passive
Perplexed
Pessimistic
Puzzled
Rancorous
Reluctant
Repelled
Resentful
Restless
Sad
Scared
Sensitive
Shaky
Shocked
Skeptical
Sleepy
Sorrowful
Sorry
Spiritless
Startled
Surprised
Suspicious
Tepid
Terrified
Tired
Troubled
uncomfortable
Unconcerned
Uneasy
Unglued
Unhappy
Unnerved
Unsteady
Upset
Uptight
Vexed
Weary
Wistful
Withdrawn
Woeful
Worried
wretched
Below is a list of EVALUATIONS, MASQUERADING as feelings (How we might interpret somebody’s behavior toward us/in other words , what we think they are doing to us and are NOT considered true feeling words in NVC!) We advise to translate into the feeling words above to minimize the likelihood of defensive reactiveness …and therefore instead to support the likelihood of hearing another and being heard by another!
Abandoned
Abused
Attacked
Betrayed
Boxed-in
Bullied
Cheated
Coerced
Co-opted
Cornered
Diminished
Distrusted
Interrupted
Intimidated
Let down
Manipulated
Misunderstood
Neglected
Overworked
Patronized
Pressured
Provoked
Put down
Rejected
Taken for granted
Threatened
Unappreciated
Unheard
Unseen
Unsupported
Unwanted
Used
List of needs
CONNECTION
acceptance
affection
appreciation
belonging
cooperation
communication
closeness
community
companionship
compassion
consideration
consistency
empathy
inclusion
intimacy
love
mutuality
nurturing
respect/self-respect
safety
security
stability
support
to know and be known
to see and be seen
to understand and
be understood
trust
warmth
PHYSICAL WELL-BEING
air
food
movement/exercise
rest/sleep
sexual expression
safety
shelter
touch
Water
–
HONESTY
authenticity
integrity
presence
PLAY
joy
humor
–
PEACE
beauty
communion
ease
equality
harmony
inspiration
order
–
AUTONOMY
choice
freedom
independence
space
spontaneity
–
MEANING
awareness
celebration of life
challenge
clarity
competence
consciousness
contribution
creativity
discovery
efficacy
effectiveness
growth
hope
learning
mourning
participation
purpose
self-expression
stimulation
to matter
Understanding
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